Football and...Sex

I had to do this one first because it is the url I’ve decided to use. I did this, of course, so that those horny Google bots might find my turf ripe for indexing, so that maybe when you type in “Footballer in randy sex romp” I’ll come up somewhere on the third or fourth page, which some people get to when they are really bored.

We should start with that most horrible of times. The tragic overlap, somewhere around the 10-13 years old stage. You come into school one day, proudly parading your new shinpads that strap around the ankle as well as the calf, and suddenly there is a new fad in town. Phil, the guy who has already got four pubes, fancies Davina, who apparently was the first girl to get her period, and everyone is absolutely obsessed with this revelation and similar revelations for the next 8 years.

What the fuck?! Since when did headers and volleys stop being the most crucial element of most school days?! Since when did it stop mattering that I was the first person to complete the Merlin 94 Premier League sticker album? In the grand zeitgeist of things, this is when sex is football’s mortal, diametrically-opposed enemy. Your love of football is suddenly impotent, out-dated, a sure-fire sign of publessness. It is also slightly comforting, because it is something that you still intrinsically understand, and can feel some kind of ownership of, as supposed to sex which is fundamentally baffling and totally out of your control.

This remains the case until you realise that they can work together- as in if you are in the first eleven at secondary school you will probably get a blow job before the podgy bloke in the railway society. Yes, it is true, there is a brief period in your late teens when football becomes sexy, probably because of all the earthy trimmings- the naked muscle on legs, the sweating, the aggression etc. And also perhaps because of the old Darwinian reading of sex- he has made the first eleven therefore he is probably more likely to give me a strong and healthy child and therefore I should probably engage in heavy petting with him at a house party. Of course, this also harks back to the tragic overlap period, but in reverse. This is when your inability to make the first eleven becomes a sure-fire indicator of shitness in bed. First football is the anti-sex, then it is a pheromone. And then it enters a grey area.

My girlfriend has asked me on various occasions which I prefer...football or sex? This is extremely unfair, of course. They are both crucial in my life. I crave them both. I obsess about them both. They were both an important part of my puberty. Now that I am a man I realise that football is both a trump card and an impediment when it comes to sex. It separates me from limp-wristed arty types who are wonderfully open-minded but have never slide-tackled an opponent or taken it around two players before nutmegging the goalie. This makes me more mannish, and sexable, perhaps.

But my inexorable relationship with football also shows my pathetic part; the part that is hopelessly geekish and that spends hours deciding whether Jimmy Bullard or Morten Gamst-Pederson will get me more Fantasy League points. And football also associates me with football fans, who are supposed to be oikish and sexist and racist and homophobic and fat and angry. Which makes me eminently less sexable. Tricky.

And finally there’s the feeling- the carnal, wet bit about sex, which you can compare only after you have actually had it- “it” being both sex, and a moment in football that has made you feel ecstatic. That bit in Trainspotting is a good example, when Renton, post-coitally, wheezes "I haven't felt that good since Archie Gemmill scored against Holland in 1978!" There is a synergy here. Scoring. One scores, it is sometimes said, with women. Back of the net etc. Lots of pent up energy, tension, physical recoil, and then WHAM...you score. A recent example of this was when Carlos Tevez scored his first goal for West Ham, a dinky free kick against Spurs ending a 13 game wait to break his duck. I stood to my feet, opened my mouth silently, shivered a little, sighed a sigh of pure ecstatic release, and closed my eyes to drink it in. This was not the first time I had done this.

Sexing and celebrating a goal, in this respect, are remarkably similar sensations. Sexing is also sometimes disappointing, and leaves you feeling a bit inadequate, or unsatisfied, or bitter. I felt all of these things when Robert Green was repeatedly omitted from the England Squad, and when Joey Cole left West Ham when we were relegated. And for only £6m.

So there we go. Football and sex are fatally intertwined, and occasionally opposed, and sometimes very similar in a visceral, carnal sort of way, and will occasionally increase your chances of getting a blow job, but usually not. That’s that, then.